Experience written by Greg Freeman
If you’re reading this blog, you are already in the conversation for Abundance and I also assert that you are interested in self-betterment and personal growth. You are in the right place.
I often put myself last. Sound familiar? When I am thinking about what I can contribute to a situation or on a team, I put myself last. It rarely enters my mind to consider what I will need to effectively make the contributions I desire or commit to making.
A recent experience showed me how this practice of putting myself last, really undercuts my capacity to be effective in my commitments. When I put myself last I neglect to consider what I need in order to fulfill on my desired contribution.
In this most recent experience this habit of putting myself last sent me into a complete meltdown,… a couple times. I lock myself in my room, didn’t want to see people, cried a lot, felt achy and sore even without having done anything, and regrettably said some things out of anger and hurt that I later regretted. Maybe you can relate, maybe not…
Hello again! My name is Greg Freeman and it is my honor and pleasure to be here with you today, sharing the wisdom gained from the mistakes we often make along our journeys.
Recently I was invited to begin training for a leadership role in the spiritual community to which I belong (www.sukyomahikari.org); it is an honor I was happy to accept.
In the first leaders training I attended for my new role, we were asked to pick a teaching to practice for the month. I decided I was going to make a concerted effort to offer more ‘light’ in my everyday life. I am committed to making a positive impact in the world around me and I have all the tools I need to make it happen. I was excited to see results!
I absolutely succeeded in offering more light as I had set out to do. However, something else also came up… I went into complete meltdown a couple times during the month, as I mentioned before.
In the depths of my meltdown, I reached out to the leadership trainer to ask for assistance. She patiently listened to my blubbering until I was finished. Then, her first response to my story about what had happened was a question so simple that it shocked me into a new and very different awareness.
She said, “From what you said, you did a very good job offering more light in the world. But how much light did you receive?”
“…Very little,” was my answer.
She smiled at me. “Well, the spiritual principle says to both give and receive light regularly. “Though we talked for a while longer, the moment when she asked me that simple question was the real pivot point of my experience.
When we seek to contribute, we must be responsible for receiving even as we embrace our responsibility for giving. Yet, I had completely ignored that one part of the Abundance principle and the leadership training because it didn’t fit into my stories of life, or because it was harder to emotionally process.
However, this painful meltdown along with the trainers simple and poignant guidance help me to see the error in my thinking and practice. I immediately updated my commitment to both give and receive light for the remainder of the month.
Almost immediately, I found my capacity to give light increase and I haven’t had any further meltdowns, even in the face of difficult circumstances or challenging conversations with others.
When we are focused on increasing our experience of Abundance and our contributions in the world, we are advised to take a few moments to really examine the Abundance principle and practice of giving and receiving, cyclically.
Said more simply, Abundance is about overflowing. . . We must receive in order to overflow to others.
How are you living right now?
Does the way you are living now honor this Abundance principle and practice
Or are you like me?
Do you always put yourself last?
How is that really working out for you?
You’ll know because it will cause breakdowns that block your progress towards improved health, harmony and prosperity.
Lastly, if you are having a breakdown, look for what resources you have to help you get reconnected? If you don’t have any, then the place to start is to find resources!
We all deserve the lives we dream of and it would be my joy and pleasure to be of service in doing so for you. Let me know in the comments below what came up for you!
Did you find a gap in resources to help you get reconnected to what matters most to you?
I’ll answer any questions you may have below. Thank you for reading along and allowing me to share my story with you. Have a great day… and happy commenting!